Top Five Lessons I’ve Learned In Life So Far.
1.There is something wrong with me 1. I need to love who I am
I had spent some many years of my life in tears, because I always felt like I let people down. When I was diagnosed with bipolar it was the first time in my life things finally made sense. It explained why that internal voice both absolutely adored me, and was my worst enemy at the same time. Mental health aside, I found myself with such toxic friends, relationships, and situations, because I always found myself wanting to be validated by others. To be honest it ended up being in my own hell. I could not live up to what all these people wanted me to be all the time. Disappointment, disapproval, nasty rumors, always waited in the shadows. It wasn’t until I finally let go of the fear of being alone, let go the toxic energy, and genuinely got know and love myself that I finally found happiness and felt free.
2. Putting Your Life In Danger Doesnt Make You Cool. It Makes You Selfish
We all in our little ways love a little bit of danger, and losing control. In the right circumstances, this is wonderful! Skydiving, sports, etc. Then some people do it in unhealthy ways, and even though it may seem exciting at first the unfortunate truth is it’s selfish. Yes, I said it, and if you feel the sting good. I have found myself in extremely dangerous situations because I have ignored red flags that someone was mentally unhinged. At the time it was a thrill because you don’t know if you’ll be walking out of the situation alive or if one wrong move this person can kill you. In movies and shows, they make this out to be super exciting, edge of your seat. The thing is if you don’t walk out of that house, building, wherever you are at the time then there’s a ripple effect. The first is the trauma of the person who finds your body. The second is the trauma to your family, friends, loved ones, coworkers, etc. There’s the trauma to the world that whatever purpose you served being on this Earth has been stripped away. It impacts so many people, and it’s not something you can go back and fix. The other is if you do survive and make an “I Survived” video but you don’t press charges, and you just kinda laugh it of you now have put other people in danger
3. Don’t be too shy or afraid to go for it! You never know until you try.
I use to roll my eyes all the time when I heard this, but somehow as an adult, I realized it’s very true. We have so many insecurities, and they tend to hold us back in life.
“What if I tell that boy love him and he doesn’t love me back?”
“What if I publish this and no one likes it?”
What if… What if… What if….
The truth is we can avoid these and spend our days dreaming of what can be. It’s our way of staying safe, and avoid being rejected. The problem with this is instead of it being something positive, it genuinely is holding you back. If you don’t go for it then yes you are safe from rejection, but now you have put a barrier between you and success. I may not be a famous author ((Yet)) but I was so scared for the longest time to put any of my writing out there. I was so afraid people were going to see me as a dreamer, but never an achiever. Despite harsh criticisms, and the cruel reality that there will be rejection came some beauty. I have made lifelong friendships that I would never trade for the world. 🌎
4. Getting Pregnant, doesn’t teach you life skills
This is something I am sure most people are like “This is common sense.” Unfortunately, when we are young we aren’t known for common sense. So I adore my children, but before I got that positive test I had these rose-colored glasses when it came to pregnancy and motherhood. There are so many shows and movies that make it seem like when you have. Baby, you suddenly know how to become the perfect housewife. You can cook, clean, take care of the baby while having a part-time job and working on a career. If we take off the Hollywood glasses the truth is not so magical. Not only are still very lost, but now we have Postpartum depression, and we are taking care of this beautiful baby we brought onto this Earth. We have so many challenges that we overcome, and we go through the path with trial and error, and we hope that we teach our kids the lessons we were too stubborn to learn.
5. Life is full of it’s ups and downs, but we deserve to enjoy the ride
Life has so many beautiful moments. We make friends, and we make some enemies. We are given millions of opportunities, and each one has a consequence whether good or bad. Just because fail, or we get in fight with our best friend, or something knocks us onto our butts unexpectedly doesn’t mean we have to stay there. Remember that you are the star of your own movie, and you deserve the best things in life. ❤❤
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Bonus lesson From J, (( My son 🥳))
To love other people:
Because it’s nice to love other people. They like you and you like them and you become friends. It makes everyone happy.
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